How to be Smarter: What are the odds of you being here?
How to be Prettier: Wearing a top that matches your eye color is one of the quickest ways to have your eyes pop (and wearing a color the same shade as your eyes almost always guarantees someone will compliment you on them).
How to be (less) Awkward: Instead of being scared you will become a failure, be scared you will become a success. Any way you look at the future, parts of it will be scary and unknown. But it’s simply more fun to worry that you will be promoted to CEO on your first day and no longer have time to attend your weekly kickboxing class, than to imagine you will get fired on your first day and no longer have the funds to attend your weekly kickboxing class. If you must worry about unexpected things, then at least let yourself worry about fun unexpected things.
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How to be Smarter: Loving, meaningful romantic relationships are not a limited-edition item. If it feels like all your friends are getting into these great relationships and you’re being left behind, remind yourself that there is not just one good relationship out there and whoever finds it first is the only one that gets it. There’s no deadline on finding someone wonderful.
How to be Prettier: Lately I have been wearing this pair of long gold Swoon earrings from the English store Astrid & Miyu almost every night I go out. They are substantial but not overly heavy (they are even in my Twitter profile picture).
How to be (less) Awkward: Before assuming someone doesn’t like you, ask yourself if you have attempted to build a friendship with them. Sometimes what we assume is a personal insult (i.e. they don’t say hi to you at parties) is really just a lack of a connection. Some mini-friendship building tips: ask a co-worker what their weekend plans are, say hi when you see a group project teammate at the library, or if you see a girl from your dorm struggling with heavy grocery bags, offer to carry one. Attempt to build a mini-friendship before assuming someone just doesn’t care for you.
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How to be Smarter: The smartest people don’t tell you everything at once. They tell you about half of what you need to know, and then when you ask questions for clarification, they look even smarter when they expand on their knowledge as the conversation goes on.
How to be Prettier: If you are being photographed over and over again, every few pictures, stop, breathe and smile again. By “freshening” your smile every few snaps, you can avoid looking too posed or fake.
How to be (less) Awkward: When I’m not sure what to use as a farewell signature in an email , I just take the last sentence of the email and make it into the closing (i.e. “Can’t wait to see you, Molly” or “Let me know if you have any questions, Molly”). That way I don’t have to worry about the sign-off being too formal (“Best, Molly”) or too casual (“xoxo, Molly”) for the relationship.
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How to be Smarter: Worrying and thinking are different activities. Worrying implies anxiety (“I just know I will throw up during my class presentation”), while thinking implies solution-based thoughts (“What can I write on my notecards that will calm me down?”) Sometimes when I am mulling something over, I remind myself “less worrying, more thinking.”
How to be Prettier: In a pinch, if I am in cab or another place I don’t have a mirror, I turn the screen around on my iPhone camera and use it to double-check there is no lipstick on my teeth and my mascara isn’t smudged.
How to be (less) Awkward: People like to talk about what they love. That’s why parents like to talk about their kids, why brides want to talk about their fiances, and why button collectors want to talk about buttons. If you’re at a loss for a conversation topic with someone, focusing the questions on what they love–be it a hobby or a person–can make the whole conversation run smoother.
P.S. Please check out the latest Flash Friday collaboration with 40:20 Vision on the topic of Priorities!
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