How to be Smarter: In my experience, any ‘real’ problem always get sympathy and support from those you love. If you are finding it hard to get sympathy from others when sharing your problems, it might be time to ask yourself if what you are complaining about is valid. (A lack of sympathy from others usually means your problems aren’t that bad, which is a good thing).
How to be Prettier: Dresses and tops with open shoulders really work for me in the summer: breezy enough for hot weather but still providing some arm coverage when transitioning into chilly air conditioning.
How to be (less) Awkward: A way that works when talking through disagreements is to sit across from the person you are upset with, get a bunch of sticky-notes, and pass the notes back and forth with ideas and feelings written on them. You get the benefit of seeing the other person’s body language and instant reaction (which you don’t get with e-mail), but writing down thoughts can help the impulsive-talkers limit any too-harsh statements, and the shy feel more empowered to speak up via the written word.
That quote is exactly what I needed to read today! A cup full of inspiration.
And smarter – wow, isn’t that the truth. Everyone needs to hear that. You are so wise.
Oooh, I like the “How to be Smarter” for today. This applies in so many areas of our lives. I’m personally a big advocate for positive body image & recently read a post in which the author wrote about “problem areas” on our bodies. She commented on how ridiculous it is that we would refer to something like our thighs as being a “problem”–are they really causing a problem in our lives? No! This goes along with what you’re saying in the sense that if you don’t think you’d get sympathy for your “problem”, it probably isn’t one.
The sticky note idea is so interesting! I really would love to try that out to help curb my tendency to speak without thinking.
I like your being smarter tip. It also helps to dig beneath your own intention. Why do you feel like you need to get sympathy in the first place? Do you need attention? Validation? Sometimes our minds can trick us into creating problems when all we need is a little quality time with others.
thanks for the awkward tip haha I needed that help!
LOVE that quote! Awesome advice as per usual. Love the Sticky Notes idea!
I shared the “How to be Smarter” idea with a few friends last night and we were all amazed at how simple the idea was (and how true) yet none of us had thought of it that way. Thanks!
Your “smarter” advice is the nicest way of telling someone to stop whining that I’ve EVER seen. So true. I seriously had to cut one of my best friends out of my life because she was constantly negative and complaining about everything, even about how her lovely parents were “too supportive!” I wish we were still talking so I could send her this!