“I have the reputation of being easygoing. But inside, I’m like nails” — Calvin Klein
How to be Smarter: I really believe that one of the best compliments you can receive is “you’re fun.” Being called fun means that you are easygoing, reasonably humorous, cool to be around, social, chatty, and make others feel welcome and included. It is an all-in-one compliment. Trying to work to earn this compliment, and being generous in giving it out to those in your life who deserve it, is a great way to spend your days.
How to be Prettier: Intriguing article about beauty in France.
How to be (less) Awkward: It really sucks when you say “I love you” to someone and they don’t say it back. And it really sucks when someone says “I love you” to you, and you don’t feel the same way back. But you know what sucks more? Saying words you don’t mean, or wanting to hear words someone doesn’t mean. People feel love at different time in different ways, and you need to let the I love yous come, from yourself and others, when they are truly meant.
Tags: Easygoing, French beauty, I love you, You're fun
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I loved that beauty article! I see these trends in my French family, too — the women tend to age very gracefully, dressing well and not putting on too much weight or makeup. Very interesting to read about in the NY Times!
Your Awkward is so true. I think we’ve all been in situations where we liked the guy better than he liked us, and then other situations where he liked us more than we liked him, and so the “I love you” thing definitely comes up prematurely for SOMEONE in those cases. I know I’ve been there and it’s an uncomfortable situation, lots of pressure, but at the same time, saying what you don’t mean can ultimately lead to heartbreak.
I’ve been in a relationship with fake “I love yous” and it was the worst possible thing to find out… a sentiment like that should be valued as something you only share when it’s true, even if you have to tell the other person honestly how you feel.
Great awkward today. “I miss you” is another toughy not to hear back. But, I agree – truth that hurts now is far better than lies that hurt later.
My best friend is a straight man, and one of our favorite things to do is talk about how much we love our mutual friends and why. I’ve always wondered what he says about me when I’m not around. The other day, he was talking to one of his other friends, another straight girl whom I have heard of but never met. When she and I met the other day, we hit it off very well. He said to me, “When I was telling her about you, I said, ‘You are going to LOVE Cindy. She is so much fun!’” It made me feel so good. So I agree that being told you’re fun is one of the highest compliments around.
Thank you so much for today’s post. I recently reached a point with a guy where he was at the I Love You and I simply wasn’t and am not going to get there. It was so hard to be honest and I’ve been beating myself up for days over it (I hate hurting people’s feelings.) I needed a reminder that my honest response was the right one for both of us in the long run.
I’m a huge fan of your blog and appreciate the time and thought you put into it. I almost always find something to make me think or at least smile.
I absolutely love the NYT article, “Aging Gracefully, the French Way” – thank you so much for suggesting it. I can completely relate to these women becuase my beauty regiment is daily gift to my skin. My mother taught me that you can never have too many lotions and potions! This piece is by far the best reading I will do today. I enjoyed some of the quotes so much that I am going to write them out and hang them up in my apartment bathroom starting with, “women’s skin is too fair to go bare”. This will definitely remind me to put on Olay Regenerist 50 SPF face lotion every morning!
I can’t wait to see what you write tomorrow
SLAM,
Ahhh French Culture! Awesome prettier today!!
I think your fun!
xx