How to be Smarter: Sometimes, the most helpful thing is just to get what you want to say to him out of your system. Post-breakup, designate a friend to text what you want to say to him, but probably shouldn’t. She doesn’t have to respond–but every time you want to send a text to him [...]
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How to be Smarter: The more volume you have or produce–whether it be blog posts, good ideas, or boys you’ve dated–the more a slip-up or mistake is ignored. I.e. if you’ve dated one loser, but a million winners, people forget about the loser. If all you’ve ever dated is one loser, your sample size is [...]
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How to be Smarter: Some people will stop loving you; some people will never start. Most will waver somewhere in the middle. At the end of the day, how you perceive that they feel might be more important than anything else. How to be Prettier: Never cut your cuticles. How to be (less) Awkward: You [...]
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How to be Smarter: Sometimes, if you don’t know what to say, it is better to say “I’m sorry, I don’t know what to say,” then fumble around for a while, using words that don’t express how you feel or what you want to say correctly. How to be Prettier: I have a favorite necklace [...]
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How to be Smarter: Small children are taught to say “thank you” when someone hands them something tangible. But big children should be taught to say thank you when someone hands them intangible things–support, sympathy, love, understanding, humor. “Thank you for answering my call last night so late–I was so upset.” “Thank you for walking [...]
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How to be Smarter: You’re old enough, at this point, to know without asking: your social security number; your parents’ birthdays; and what kind of food to bring over when your BFF feels homesick. It’s not that someone would mind telling you these things–it’s that you know without asking that makes the remembering so powerful. [...]
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How to be Smarter: Encourage people to be involved in your life–being accountable to someone other than yourself is one of the biggest motivators I know. How to be Prettier: Gray tights seem to be everywhere for the fall. Because of their lighter color, they are less slimming than black tights, so I recommend wearing [...]
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How to be Smarter: Keep the spectators in your life–the ones who are invested in how you play the game–on the edge of their seats and, occasionally, leaping to their feet. How to be Prettier: Apparently, the Olsen twins get their signature pout by saying the word “prune” and holding the “uuunn” part right before [...]
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How to be Smarter: Being independent, and being loyal, are not mutually exclusive. You can be extremely loyal to those you love–in a romantic relationship or otherwise–and still be fiercely self-reliant. Once you think being committed to someone means being dependent on them, you are doomed. How to be Prettier: I really like the look [...]
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How to be Smarter: Recently, on my friend’s birthday, at her party, I asked her what her goals were for her next year (I’m always that fun…..). She said, without hesitation, that in her next year, she wanted to continue to be “a good daughter, a good friend, and a good girlfriend.” I find this [...]
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How to be Smarter: The age-old trick of laying out your clothes the night before really does save five or ten minutes in the morning. How to be Prettier: I’m working on a theory about the power of hot pink and grey. I’m loving the look of a high waisted grey skirt with a hot [...]
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How to be Smarter: All financial advice can seem so complicated and long winded. It all boils down to: Live within your means, save for retirement, have an emergency fund, and pay off credit card debt. If all four at once seem daunting, your goal should be to start doing one more of those things a [...]
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How to be Smarter: No one needs to hear all of the truth all of the time, and no one needs to say all of the truth all of the time. Life gets easier with some omissions of unimportant things. How to be Prettier: I think leopard print with red accents is over-done. Try leopard [...]
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How to be Smarter: A good old-fashioned word game never hurt anyone. A great site for crosswords. How to be Prettier: Make sure your hair is fully soaked through in the shower before you put the shampoo in–it gets it cleaner. How to be (less) Awkward: The only person that should have their arms crossed [...]
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